I thought we were happy
So sitting here just over two years later here’s what you should know...
The moment that the person you have loved and lived with for over twenty-one years says out of the blue, “I cannot do this anymore. I hate coming home.” No warning signs, nothing. Your first thought was for your daughter. Her graduation was in six weeks. The first words you said were “you cannot go until she has graduated”. Then the questions; why, what was wrong, I thought we were happy? To be told, “I love you but I’m not in love with you. I have to leave.”
You put on a smile for six weeks and got your daughter ready for graduation. Everyone thought you were so happy as a family, yet you were dying inside. She graduated on Monday, he left on the Friday. You took your daughter away, as you didn’t want you both to have to witness him going.
He then wanted to think things through and give it six months. You took control and said no, three months. He came to the house and when you said “you’re not coming back are you?” His response was to laugh and say no. That very moment made you stronger than you ever thought possible.
You will not tell your daughter what he said to you that day unless she ever asks.
So nearly two years down the line know this – you will be amazing and happy. You will be closer to your daughter than ever before. You are a strong independent woman and you rock. You have amazing friends who lifted you when you thought you couldn’t fly alone. Yes, times will be hard but you will make it. The pain goes away and you start to see life in a new way. You do not think about him and feel sorrow or cry. You feel nothing for him – which in those first days, weeks and months you couldn’t imagine. Life is good. You made it. You are amazing.