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HI DAD TAKEOVER: You feel guilty for spending more time in the office than with your loved ones

HI DAD TAKEOVER: You feel guilty for spending more time in the office than with your loved ones

hi dad,

You've been awake for three hours and you've already handled half a dozen toddler tantrums by 8.30am on a Saturday.

This morning's meltdowns have so far been caused by:

  • not allowing two-year-old daughter to play on the stairs

  • thwarting her efforts to pour fruit juice on the kitchen table

  • putting away a musical toy that had been playing the same tune for most of the morning

  • trying to go to the loo on your own

  • being told by your five-year-old that I was not his friend any more for not turning the television on.

Five years into parenthood, you are on course to become a qualified peace negotiator and a multi-tasking ninja.

After a long week of full-time work you crave some quality time with the family at the weekend. 

Ever since you returned to work after three months parental leave you feel guilty for spending more time in the office than with your loved ones. 

You wish you could spend more time with your amazing wife who spends two days a week on her own looking after the toddler.

You try and do the school and nursery run as much as possible and you rush home from work to help put the children to bed.

But is it wrong to wish for a bit of peace and quiet on a weekend and for a bit of 'me time'?

Two months into the terrible twos, you sometimes wish for the toddler years to be over and for the 'three-nager' and 'fournado' years that will follow.

Keep the faith! The toddler years can be difficult, but you know that it will get easier and the teething, potty training dramas, and disturbed nights sleep will end.

You know that they grow up so quickly, so savour the happy moments and grin and bear the tantrums. Enjoy the many smiles, chuckles and cuddles. Be there as much as you can for the new developmental leaps, the new words learned, and the messy artwork. Don't take life for granted.

You may wish for peace sometimes and the guarantee of a good night's sleep. However, you know life would be empty without them and within an hour of them being out of the house you already miss them.

Being a parent is exhausting. However, it is the most rewarding and best job in the world. Don't forget that.

Adam

Adam
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