Mother’s Day will eventually become a happier day
It’s Sunday 10th March 2013, your first Mother’s Day. With the exception of the DMC (Dead Mum’s Club) dinner of 2009, which was boozy, sweary and teary, you have avoided this day like the plague for the last 6 years.
You naively think that now that you’re ‘a mum’ and ‘it’s all about you’ that those pangs of sadness that you’ve had every year, as the cards, flowers and chocolates appear in every bloody shop, will magically disappear. Sorry love, you’ll still feel a bit crap. You’ll now also feel guilty and ungrateful for feeling crap, winner! You feel this overwhelming pressure to put on ‘the world’s biggest smile’ but secretly, you’ll nip into the loo to sob.
It’s lovely to have a day ‘for you’ but remember, you can do Mother’s Day, your way.
Have a drink, have nice food but also make sure you have a cry - it’s good to let it out!
You can’t help being dramatic, other days, so don’t feel that you have to turn into Little Miss Sunshine on Mother’s Day.
Don’t feel guilty about the tantrum/meltdown that you will have when it all gets a bit much. This will happen every year, go with it!
Eventually you will get into the groove of ‘Mother’s Day your way’; A coffee and sneaky cry in bed as you think of how you would really like to be celebrating (with Nana Chris there too), a low key walk and cooking for people (so that you can drink all the wine and not have to drive!)
Mother’s Day will eventually become a happier day but sod it, it’s your day and you’ll cry if you want to!