My partner has Paternal PND
You’re going to love being a Mummy, you’ll miss that bump and those kicks for a bit, but you’ll love the cuddles and smiles more.
You’re going to prove those people wrong who laughed in your face and called you ‘naive’ when you said you wanted to do hypnobirthing and would try not to have an epidural. Because you’re going to hypnobirth the s**t out of labour and get to hospital at 8cm giving birth in the pool just 45 minutes later!
You’re going to love breastfeeding, and feel sad about weaning - because your baby doesn’t ‘need’ you as much anymore. But don’t worry, he’ll still have clingy moments when only Mummy cuddles will fix it.
You’re going to miss a lot of sleep Mama, but you’re not going to complain, because one day he won’t want Mummy in the night anymore and when he’s older he might not want mummy in the day either - so you keep cherishing those hourly cuddles (even after 14months.)
You’ve got to trust yourself mummy. Mama knows best and you know your baby better than anyone in the world, don’t listen to anyone that tries to say different!
You’re going to take really well to being a Mummy, and feel guilty when you see others struggling - but don’t - because those are the people who will seek your support and thank you for it.
Tough times are coming Mama - you didn’t realise what changes were coming. You’ve never missed a bedtime in 14 months, you’ve never missed a bath time, a first time or a special moment. But you know who has? Daddy!
And Daddy’s struggling.
Sometimes he struggles in silence and other times he tells you. Parenting hasn’t come so easy to him and he feels ashamed to admit it. He’s embarrassed to talk and he doesn’t know where to seek help! You keep him going, you are the glue! And one day he’ll tell you he can’t have more - he just can’t face it, that he feels jealous of how well you parent, that he feels guilty for all the things he hasn’t done...
But all he needs to hear is... he’s doing well! It’s not his fault! He has people to talk to! He’s not alone! He’s a good parent! And... you’re in this together!
Hi Mama, you’re doing amazing! And don’t you ever forget that! You don’t need people to tell you you’re a good mother, and you don’t need to prove it to anyone.
Because 14 months in you’ve brought up a strong, funny, intelligent, independent and loving little boy who one day will grow to be a loving and caring MAN, just like his Daddy. And together you can tackle the world!