Based in Sydney, Australia, Foundry is a blog by Rebecca Thao. Her posts explore modern architecture through photos and quotes by influential architects, engineers, and artists.

When you have a hitter

When you have a hitter

hi mama,

I see you over there and I see past your jokes and "he thinks he's Rocky" quips and I know you're struggling.  You're struggling to know what to do, you're struggling having to manage these situations and you're struggling feeling like a complete failure.  Having a child that frequently lashes out at other children is really tough but, you know what, it isn't your fault and you didn't make him this way.  

I'm not going to patronise you and say "it'll be alright" and "everything will work out fine" because, although these things are all true, you are in for a really tough 3-4 months.

You're going to spend hours trying to understand how he can play so well with other children at nursery but when out and about with you can turn into a feral, wildly out of control beast in the blink of an eye.  You are going to worry, you are going to feel embarrassed and you are going to cry.  A lot!

Sadly this letter isn't a how-to guide for 'fixing' the problem, truth be told I still don't really understand even now what caused it.  Busy play groups were definitely a trigger and are definitely best avoided for a while but beyond that I can't offer any advice.  Know this though, it is just a phase and as annoying and clichéd as it sounds, this too shall pass.  Trust in your abilities as a mother and his cheeky, loving personality will shine through.

So, do what you do best when faced with a problem, have a damn good cry about then stand up, dust yourself off and make a plan.  Avoid play groups and anywhere busy for a few months.  Yes this will make you lonely and yes you will crave adult conversation at times but before you know he’ll be running around at soft play laughing with other children and this period of time will be just that, a horrible, really pants period that you both survived.

Trust me mama, you got this!

Love Steph x

P.S. Also remember: wine is your friend!

 Steph blogs over on  Country Mumma  and you can follow her on Instagram -  @country_mumma_ .

Steph blogs over on Country Mumma and you can follow her on Instagram - @country_mumma_.

Domestic abuse: You do have a future

Domestic abuse: You do have a future

He doesn't sleep

He doesn't sleep