You will learn to cope on little sleep
If only you knew what I know now... you’ll become a different mother because of her.
She will test you and push you to your limits but it’s all to make you realise you can do this.... just go with her.
Stop fighting against her. Who says she has to have a certain number of naps a day? Who says she’s meant to sleep a certain amount of hours? Who says she has to sleep alone in her cot?
She wants to be with you, on you, around you... how can that be so wrong?
Trust in her she knows her needs... give her what she needs and you know what they are.. it’s you, her mother, her comforter, her love.
Let go of the expectations, stop googling sleep online, throw out the books... until one is written titled Valli there’s no point reading them!
She will make you stronger, more patient and allow you to listen to your mothering instincts. Ok you’re more tired than you ever thought possible. You’re snappy, you feel out of control.
Stop, look at her, listen to her, let go and go with her.
Everything will be ok, go with what works, do whatever it is for an easy life, cuddle her close all night, cherish those cuddles, for the nights may be long but the years are short.
You will learn to cope on little sleep, you will be proud of the mother you’ve become. You will know you’re a different mother to what you were with Rocco. Not a better mother just different. You’ll be more confident in trusting your instincts and knowing what your child needs.
Stop stressing the little things, the house doesn’t have to be perfect and every meal doesn’t have to be filled with superfoods... be with them, enjoy them, be in the present that’s why it’s called the present!
Yes 21 months down the line Valli still wakes every hour or less and instinctively knows when I go to bed. She won’t settle unless she’s next to me, comfort feeding all night. She only naps next to me or Daddy in out waking in the carrier and just wants to be with us but do you know what...wow how amazing is that?
Why did I think this was so wrong in the early days... because society has told us so... that babies should sleep a certain length of time, should sleep through the night by a certain age and should sleep in their own rooms.
If only I knew back then what I know now I would have saved myself lots of stress and upset and just been able to enjoy those cuddles as much as I do now!
If only you knew what I do now but remember... You’ve got this Mama!
Be kind to yourself and you should see her now, such a cheeky pop!